Lessons Learned (LL)

If a man harasses you and you report it, even quietly and at the lowest level, he will think you’re a rat and not to be trusted with information. You will find this out because he will be happy to tell anyone who will listen (he'll leave out the part about blatantly harassing you).

A man who is attracted to you will think the world of you and compliment your work performance when people are listening. That same man, when he finds out you aren’t attracted to him (and they always figure it out sooner or later), will tell the same people that you’re bad at your job and suffer from any number of other undesirable traits.

A man who is attracted to you, makes an overt pass at you, and believes that your are attracted to him even though you dismiss his advance, will always stick up for you publicly and privately.  It’s because he thinks that if a woman can want a man as badly as she must want him and still say no, well...then...  her moral fiber must be woven of exceptionally strong thread. Several months later he will hint around that he slept with you.

These men will never understand that other men tell you every word of what they say.